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What if we correct behavior and miss the underlying need that is crying out for help?
We joke that kids don’t come with an instruction manual...but parenting comes with a pretty helpful roadmap, when you look at science and Scripture. (see more in issue 2)
The scientific literature and scripture are rich with truths about how parents can positively influence a child’s natural development. You know what the first rule of child behavior is?
Behavior is communicating unmet needs!
We just need to understand a little bit about the underlying psychology and development. It is tempting to label behavior as defiance or disrespect, but really, their brains are still under construction. When we jump to reaction too quickly, correct behavior without connecting to the underlying need, or simply manage the behavior in the moment, what we get is compliance, not growth.
